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Friday, March 31, 2017

Do Be Judgemental!

We are often told in these politically-correct times and culture:

"Don't judge others", "Don't be judgemental"

I say - "Do judge and be judgemental. However, the only two bases on which to judge any person in a particular situation are Intelligence and Goodness."

The questions to ask are:

"Are they being intelligent (or not)

Are they being good (or not)?" 
- as it applies to the current issue or situation.. not as a blanket judgement across their life.

It is almost a necessity to judge people on those two counts to interact with them anytime. We all do it out of instinct and habit. It does not mean we are being unfair or harsh to anyone by judging them accurately.

Obviously, the caution against being judgemental has to do with one of the definitions of the word 'judgemental' - "having an overly critical point of view". The fear here is of judging people harshly or more negatively than warranted". I have never heard of anyone complaining about being judged more positively than warranted! In fact, quite the opposite - we are, as a society flooded with overly hyperbolic praises and words that stretch the limits of credibility about the goodness all around - "Fantastic! Incredile! Awesome!" all thrown around loosely and cheaply more than coins of the lowest denomination! Many words have lost their original value.

I agree that often we judge on some basis that is unfair and not good for a just and harmonious society. It is therefore recommended we NOT judge people UNFAIRLY on those criteria - race, colour, age, height, weight, health, sexual orientation, language, nationality, education. These just FACTS about them. It is OK to OBJECTIVELY and FAIRLY apply these facts where they are relevant to a situation. For example - in identifying a person in a criminal case, in a criteria for a job skill, for legal requirements of a carnival ride or a medical procedure etc.

When judging people for their intelligence or goodness, it is important to judge accurately and keep in mind it may not always be possible for us to do so! We are far from perfect ourselves,but nevertheless have to try and do our best.

I think the ability to judge, judgement and judgemental nature is most highly developed in humans and it defines us as a species more than any others. It is silly to ask us NOT to be judgemental. It is in our nature. I would say "DO judge and be judgemental of people in most issues, as one is instinctively anyway  - just dont judge people on superficial irrelevant criteria.

IMO, there are only two valid and relevant criteria to judge and be proudly judgemental of ANYONE in almost ANY situation - Intelligence and Goodness.The important thing to keep in mind is - we are all not at exactly the same level ourselves in all situations  - We are each intelligent or not-intelligent, Good or Not-Good in varying situations. It is worth judging ourselves too while we are judging others.

There are broadly four types of people that emerge from such a judgement using a binary - two levels approach.

                                     Good                            Not-Good
Intelligent                   Great! Easy                    Most Dangerous

Not-Intelligent        Might Need Support        Often Most Difficult


It becomes clear that we need to expect and prepare for different approaches to the dealing with each of the four different types.

Of course, it is possible to develop finer levels of judgement in these two areaas

Intelligent - from  Rational, Smart, Clever... all the way to Genius
Not-Intelligent - from Silly, Irrational... all the way to Stupid

Good - from Reasonable, Kind ... all the way to a Saint!!
Not-Good - from selfish, unreasonable.. all the way to EVIL!!

One can develop more detailed recommended approaches to dealing with varying combinations of the levels of Intelligence and Goodness. It may be sometimes easier to deal with an evil genius than with a good person who is not clever. We deal lovingly and tolerantly with children instinctively!

So, go on be judgemental! Judge! Judge others and yourself too! ;-)


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Wednesday, March 29, 2017

Reader Makes The Writer


It is readers who truly make a writer.
 
A heartfelt thank you to all my readers!.

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Damsel In Distress


A damsel in distress I met one day
Dishevelled, upon the ground she lay
In a plaintive voice I heard her say
"Sir, I've been through a lot and it was hell.
I'll spare you the details and I won't tell."

I helped her up, felt it was my duty
I held her close, she was a beauty
I built her up and gave her my heart
Put her on a pedestal right from the start
Soon I could not imagine us ever being apart 


I would do anything to see her smile
I gave her a yard and she took a mile
To figure her out it took me a while
Then from off the pedestal I set her on the ground
There she was back just as she had been found 


I was sorry it all had to end this way
I turned around and as I quietly walked away
To someone I heard her plaintively say
"Sir, I've been through a lot and it was hell.
I'll spare you the details and I won't tell."


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Tuesday, March 28, 2017

Expectations versus Hopes and Dreams

In life, expectations have to be realistic, hopes and dreams don't have to be so.


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Monday, March 27, 2017

Life Is Short So Take The Time


The Journey of Life is Short
So take the time!

Make the time for the near and dear
 Take the time to make things clear
Make the effort to say things right
To avoid misunderstandings or slight
The Journey of Life is so short
Too short to spend in needless fight

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Sunday, March 26, 2017

Ek Prem Kahaani


Woh mili padi thi zameen par
Lagaa kuch zulm beeti thi us naazneen par
Boli halke se, "Huzoor humne bahut kuch sahaa hai,
Par kisise kuch bhi nahin kahaa hai"

Uthaaya use, seene se lagaaya
Pyaar kiya, palkon-pe bithaaya
Aadat padgayi, woh sar pe chad gayi
Har baat pe uski apeksha had se badh-gayi
Aakhir use sahi pehchaan-na hi pada
Pyaar ko bhi aakhir haar maan-na hi pada

Behke hue humko akal phir-aaya
Sar par se uthaakar use zameen par giraaya
Chala main phir wahan se, kuch kahaa na kiya
Bas do pal me ek aawaaz sunaayi diya

Boli rahi thi kisi se halke, "Huzoor humne bahut kuch sahaa hai,
Par kisise kuch bhi nahin kahaa hai"


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The Psychological Point Of No Return



With most people (not all) there is a tipping point or point of no return, in telling them the unvarnished truth, beyond which the relationship cannot recover or get back as good as it was. This point is defined by the ego of the person to whom the truth must be told. The more intelligent and wiser people listen actively for and usually get the truth before it becomes necessary for someone to cross that point with them.

What do you think?


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All Relationships End

It is inevitable that all human relationships have to end sometime, someday. The successful ones are those that end in mutual understanding, acceptance and positive feelings.


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Saturday, March 25, 2017

Is Hope For Happiness More Important Than Happiness Itself?


The hope for future happiness seems to me the most powerful motivator of human life. It is so pervasive and strong that people can easily look past current happiness at hand to keep the hope alive!


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No Thankyou To Wisdom Ambrosia And Paradise

Most people would reject out of hand the most profound Wisdom, Ambrosia or Paradise if offered to them free and for the taking. They will more readily, thankfully and joyfully accept after a lot of painful suffering and struggle a comforting lie, a beer and a seat on a park bench. 

What do you think? 


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Sunday, March 19, 2017

Desires Wishes Hopes and Expectations

It is important to not let one's desires and hopes drift into the realm of becoming expectations!
A lot of human misery come from confusing wishes, desires, hopes and expectations.

Anyone can develop a desire or a wish - no qualifications needed.

Hope: This requires some effort on our part.
It is after working and putting in some effort towards earning what is wished for or desired, that the odds of achieving it are increased. It is only then, that one is entitled to hope for it. The intensity of hope should ideally be proportional to the probability or odds of the wish coming true with the effort. All things within our control are only upto the point when have put in our sincere effort - to increase the likelihood of something desired happening. The rest is either beyond our competence or our control or both. There may be many factors we are not even aware of. Note that when the odds are 99% in favour, one can be more hopeful than when the odds are, say, 20%.

Yet, something that we estimated the odds at 20% might actually happen, while something that the odds were at 99% of happening may NOT happen. Such is reality and life. It is important to remember this and accept whatever the outcome. If we keep in mind there is a possibility of our desire or hope not being fruitful, no matter how high the odds and we can accept an undesired outcome as part of reality. This is crucial. We cannot grieve or make too much of not getting what we want. Examples of this can be running a race, buying a lottery ticket or raising a child with a certain goals in mind.

This also leads us to the next level - 'Expectation'. When we 'expect' something to happen, it is like the odds were 100% - that we are entitled to get what we desired.  We have done everything to earn it completely and we are somehow disappointed or hurt that it did not happen. We might feel grieved justifiably. An example of such would be that we worked honestly for the day and expect to be paid by our employer. We paid the price for a meal and expect to receive it. Under 'normal' circumstances, there are some reasonable or valid expectations, but if one looked at the complexity of the world, even those only become reasonable hopes! One cannot expect to get paid promptly if there is an earthquake or flood or some other calamity that upsets the whole system.

That is why it is said as cultural wisdom that we have only the right to action leading upto something, not an automatic right to the desired outcome. In native Sanskrit there is a saying  - "Karmanyeva-Adhikaaraste Ma Phaleshu Kadaachana" In simpler terms it means - Go ahead, desire, wish, work for it and hope, but have no expectations of the exact final outcome! This is the key to avoid a lot of disappointment and misery in life.


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Wednesday, March 15, 2017

The Great Fun Dreams Of My Life


My dear kids, my treasures, I too had many 'fun' dreams in my life -  to ride around the world on a bicycle with my friends, to experience the life among different cultures, to see the Carnival in Brazil, go on a cruise through Europe, ride the Trans-Siberian Railway, to see the deserts and jungles of Africa, to camp in the Australian Outback, rent an RV and drive around the country, visit all the temples and historic places in India... In my younger days, I imagined doing this alone, then I wanted to with my love and then you came along and I was thankful I waited for you to join me on these if possible. I wished you too get to experience wonderful adventures and experiences.

I worked to save up and make it possible 'at the right time'. It has never been quite the right time for me until now - I always seemed to have something more immediate and pressing to attend to. I did it happily. I am still doing so. I have realized one thing - looking it is not a hard decision for me to stay home with you, for you and attend to all the chores, cooking, laundry, cleaning, driving, gardening, dealing with a thousand little things - sometimes frustrating as well. But it is perhaps God's plan that I am doing this. This IS the greatest, most rewarding dream I am living and I would trade it in a heartbeat for all the adventures and travels around the world. If I had indeed been around the world, had the best thrilling travels and experiences, but I could not be there with you every day possible from getting you started out for the day and seeing you back to sleep, I would feel terrible. There would have been no joy in my life.

Somethings we dream and chase, some dreams chase us and only after they have given us the happiness that we did not foresee, we realize how beautiful it can be. Some you dream and it comes true, others come true and then you realize that it is the perfect, beautiful dream!!

 I am fortunate I am able to do this. I am not the only one. There are billions of parents like me who are doing this every single day and moment. I hope some time, if it is in God's plans, you too experience this kind of incredible adventure, joy and happiness of being there for your own children. Don't mistake it for drudgery! Once you 'get' it, it is surely one of the greatest joys of life.

We are fortunate, we can still make the dreams of traveling around the world together happen. I hope it is in God's plan and that we will.



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Monday, March 13, 2017

The "Dead Tree" Lives On







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Limited Lifetime Eternal Soul Time?






 Most humans live like we have unlimited time in our bodies and none at all once it is gone.
Is reality completely the opposite?

While still in this body -

-Work on your dreams
 -Tell that person you love them
-Show your love in as many ways as you can
-Travel the world as much as you can
-Make friends with many strangers - if indeed you come back for another round, you will come across some familiar souls
-Don't run away from, but pick and choose the conflicts and fights that are meaningful and important enough to engage in this lifetime as a priority.
-Let Karma and the eternity of a soul take care of all the injustices you cannot take care of.

-Work on your dreams
 -Tell that person you love them
-Show your love in as many ways as you can
-Travel the world as much as you can
-Make friends with many strangers - if indeed you come back for another round, you will come across some familiar souls


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Friday, March 10, 2017

Sunset Sight To Give Thanks And Pray

"And at the end of the day we should give thanks and pray to the one, to the one.."
Lyrics from Rod Stewart song "Have I told you lately that I love you?".

Sunset view on a walk. My different interpretation of the lyrics inspired by the following sight. 





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Wednesday, March 8, 2017

Agar ho khafaa humse

Agar ho khafaa humse
Kuch bhi sazaa do
Magar yun na chup raho
Kuch to sadaa do

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Saturday, March 4, 2017

Khwaab Ke Kashti Khwaab Ke Pankh - Dream Boat and Wings of Dream


कोई ख्वाब हकीकत हो 
इसके लिए ख्वाब देखना ही पड़ता है 
वो हमारे पास आए 
इसके लिए जुदाई सहना ही पड़ता है 

Koi khwaab hakeekat ho
Iske liye khwaab dekhna hi padta hai
Woh hamare paas aaye
Iske liye judaai sehna hi padta hai

गर ख्वाब सच्चा नहीं होता 
उसे बे—गम सह लेंगे 
ख्वाब का मज़ा कुछ कम नहीं होता 
कश्ती को ही किनारा कह लेंगे 

Gar khwaab saccha nahi hota
Use be-gham seh lenge
Khwaab ka mazaa kuch kum nahi hota
Kashti ko hi kinaara kar lenge

ख्वाबों के पंख पर उड़ते 
भारी वजन उठा लेते हैं 
कोई डाली नहीं मिले तो क्या 
उड़ने का लुत्फ उठा लेते हैं 

Khwaabon ke pankh par udte
Bhaari wazan uthaa lete hain
Koi daali nahin mile to kya
Udne ka lutf uthaa lete hain

English Version:

For a dream to come true
One has to dream for a start
For her to come to me
I have to bear us being apart

If the dream does not come true
The dreaming I will not rue
The joy of the dream will just be more
I will consider the boat itself my shore

Flying on the wings of my dreams
I can lift loads that are not-so-light
So what if I cannot find a tree-branch to alight 
I will simply enjoy the flight
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Friday, March 3, 2017

Who is a Bigot, Racist, Fascist, Misogynist?


Convince me that a person is a 'bigot' without using the word 'bigot'.
Convince me that a person is a 'racist' without using the word 'racist'.
Convince me that a person is a 'fascist' without using the word 'fascist'.
Convince me that a person is a 'misogynist' without using the word 'misogynist'

Use indisputable facts, their actions, reason that lead me to conclude for myself that they are a bigot, racist or fascist or whatever. Then we can agree to conveniently, use the term 'bigot' or 'racist' or 'fascist', 'misogynist' when there is a need, else it is just name-calling with no real meaning. Often those throwing the terms around loosely, at every chance themselves exhibit the reasoning or actions that qualify them to be labelled as such.

In any reasonable discussion or debate, it is OK to disagree with someone's preferences or policies or viewpoints - hopefully with a civil, clear stated reason. We may not agree with someone deserving of a label, despite looking at the same 'evidence', we might choose to interpret things in a different way and believe something else about them.


So, let us debate ideas, issues and policies, rather than people and their labels.


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Thursday, March 2, 2017

Shaam Ke Saaye - Evening Shadows


Pados ke silhoot mein
Shaam ke saaye
Nazar utha aasmaan taraf
To woh yaad aaye

English Translation:
In the silhouette of the neighborhood,
Evening shadows I find
As the gaze rose heavenwards
She came to mind.
(Implying that the beautiful moon reminds one of their lover far away)

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Wednesday, March 1, 2017

A New Economic Trend in The East and The West

Trump's economic policies seem to indicate that a new middle class segment will be formed by the productive section of the society - those that produce goods and services directly used and useful to consumers. The entrepreneur class will grow rich as always and be rewarded for taking risks as expected in a highly capitalist society. The current middle class and upper middle-class comprised of bloated bureaucracy and regulators who are non-productive or non-essential will be trimmed down. The number of new and viable businesses should grow dramatically when Trump's policies are in place. They remind me so much of what is happening in India now - with the difference that the 'bloated middle' in India is overwhelmingly plain, unabashed corruption. This current 'deep state' in the USA and India fight and resist hard - with the help of a corrupt media. China is really leading the way in this trend.


What do you think?


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