The Honest Romantic's Saga - Part 5

Hearing that HRRomeo thought the list of expectations of man from a woman on the online website was 'good', Juliet and her friend’s jaws dropped open in apparent horror. HRRomeo did not seem to notice it.

“What?” they asked in sync.

Juliet’s friend continued, “You think it a good list? This is what a man seeks in a woman and it is OK in this day and age?”

“Of course! It is a good list of capabilities for ANY day and age, isn’t it?” replied HRRomeo, “All the things one hopes for and can rightfully expect in a partner. I think it is quite reasonable. Do you have any objections to any part of the list?”

The girls exchanged meaningful glances.

Juliet started, “How about these parts  -

“Financially independent: Working or independently wealthy to provide financially for the family.

AND

Must have ability to cook, clean, garden, drive and take care of the children, if any. Would be a plus if she can do handy jobs around the house too.”

This guy wants it ALL!! She must earn and provide AND do the house chores and take care of the kids too!!  And he has the gall to demand she know how to treat a man!! Should she massage his feet after he comes back from his walk?”

“Yes, that would be a nice romantic thing to do for him. It would set up the mood for the night,” replied HRRomeo.

Now both the girls looked at him as if he were some kind of alien.

“Romeo!! Are you serious? You are surely kidding!!”

“No Juliet, I am not!” replied HRRomeo, sounding very sincere.

“Can you explain why you think it is a good list? And reasonable?” asked Juliet, shaking her head like she was not sure she understood this man she had been seeing for some time. She was also embarrassed in front of her close friend.

“Well, every family needs to be provided for financially, chores have to be done, kids have to be taken care of. It is not all work, there should be some extra efforts for romance too! Anyone willing to enter into a marriage or relationship should be able to contribute in all these areas, in this day and age as you say! Is it not reasonable for a man to expect this in a woman? I think a woman has as much right to expect the same from a man. Would you be as shocked if a woman expected the same list from a man? ” asked HRRomeo.

“Of course not! A woman cannot do all the things herself and she can expect a man to help out at home as well after his work,” answered Juliet, “This guy seems to expect the woman to do everything.”

“But he does not say so in what I have heard so far,” replied HRRomeo.

There was a sudden silence and the girls looked at each other with a puzzled look. They had only read the profile as far as this list but had not gone beyond this. Just reading this far had outraged them so much that they had called the nearest man to answer for the rest of his kind.

“Well, we did not read beyond this point. No woman will likely either. This guy is going to his grave alone!” sniggered the girls.

“Well, look further in his profile and see what he writes,” suggested HRRomeo.

“What does he himself expect to do for this relationship?” asked Juliet’s friend.

“That is a good question,” agreed HRRomeo, “Look further in his profile if there is something about it.”

The girls read further. At the end of the profile was a line under the section was written - “Something more about me:  My partner has a right to expect everything of me that I expect from her, except to give birth to our children and nurse them. I will do something to make up for that!”

“Well, that’s right there! He does not say she has to do everything. He surely is willing to do the same things, as I understand what he means,” said HRRomeo.

“We cannot make that assumption. He does not specify it clearly enough,” said the girls doubtfully.

“Well, you did make the opposite assumption about him, without reading his profile completely. To my mind this is clear enough. Still, you ask him clearly when communicating with him. Maybe he wants a woman who is patient, does not jump to conclusions and makes assumptions too quickly, without hearing everything. Maybe he wants such a calm, smart woman who is a true equal,” replied HRRomeo.

There was quietness in the room. The girls went back to reading the profiles.

-To Be Concluded --.


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