Sunday, November 29, 2015

The Purple Egg


The Multibillionaire was on stage. He saw a sea of faces looking up to him from the crowded, large theatre. There was no standing room. It was packed to the rafters. The spotlight shone on him and the table in front of him. It shone on a large brown-coloured egg kept in an open, beautiful red velvet-lined tiny gold casket. The image of him, next to that of the brightly illuminated brown egg was projected on to a large screen display behind him and on large television screens all around the theatre and outside for those that could not get in.

The buzz of the crowd died out quickly as he approached the mike and tapped it a couple of times to check that it was working. The silence was literally a pin-drop one. Thousands of people, most of them young graduates, listened to him with a fervent admiration and adulation. Most of them would gladly follow him or his advice to be worth a fraction of him financially. A lot of the older generation too looked at him with a mixture of puzzlement and some grudging admiration. Many of them wanted their children to follow in his footsteps, since they were themselves a bit tired and worn out. 

It was a ‘Jobs Fair’ at the annual gathering of local universities. It was a means of getting the job-seekers and employers together, getting some news and media coverage and advertising for the universities and companies, all in one place.

The Multibillionaire himself never went to university, but was so successful in life that people listened to him seriously when he urged students to stay in school and complete their university education. He was one of wealthiest persons on the planet according to his share holdings. The media liked to focus on that.

In reality, however, the company he ran was in considerable debt and he was going through a costly separation and headed for divorce. His real worth, if everything was accounted for, would be in a few paltry millions. He and the media however, both had an interest in keeping up the image of his extreme wealth. He was also the darling of political power brokers in many countries and the poster boy for politicians of even some opposing political parties, to whom he ‘donated’ generously as he was expected to do. He was desperately trying to start up a new range of products and develop a base of consumers capitalizing on his fame. He hoped to utilize this opportunity to build up the hype and anticipation for his venture, which he hoped would save his current company and bail them out of their precarious situation that was not publicly known. He really, desperately wanted and needed his new venture to succeed spectacularly, but kept that well hidden behind his confident, happy, shiny façade. Very few, close to him, knew the real situation. They all had a stake in keeping quiet and going along with whatever was his game plan. 

He had been invited to be one of the star speakers at this ‘Jobs Fair’ with a lot of publicity. He had come along with his Human Resources and Recruitment (HRR) managers to hire a few students for his new venture. He let it be known to them that he was not happy at the kind of people they were hiring for a while. He had felt that the initial success of his company due to his own efforts had been squandered by others. He had told them, he would take charge and give them a demonstration of his principles and values he sought, rather than lecture them about it. He had decided to utilize this ‘Jobs Fair’ opportunity to teach his management, what kind of people to hire and how to build up a massive following. They were all sitting on stage behind him watching him or in the front row seats in the theatre, eager to learn.

He looked around side to side, smiling at the audience even though he could not see them for the blinding spotlight on him. However, to the audience, it appeared that he was looking slowly at each of them.

“Hello! Good evening, all! Thank you for having me…” he cheerfully started, but could not complete the sentence as a thunderous welcoming applause broke out from the audience. He paused thoughtfully, smiled, took a bow humbly to let the cheers die down. It did not seem like it would soon.

“Thank you! Thank you!” he tried to cut in and quieten the audience. They paused, but as soon as he drew a breath, the roar of the cheering crowds started again. He heard his name being called out by a few over-enthusiastic fans. A rock-star could not have asked for more. He let them go on.  He turned to his team on stage, smiling, ever so slightly shaking his head. They were all used to this effect he had on people.

After a full minute, he decided it was enough. He spoke more seriously and firmly into the mike.

“Folks! Behold this purple egg!” he shouted as he picked up the little golden casket with the egg and held it forward. 

The crowd fell suddenly silent even as he started to speak. As he finished and the image of him holding out the largish brown-coloured egg set against a deep red-velvet cloth was flashed on the screens, there were gasps – some of awe and some of perhaps confusion.

A lot of the audience and the Billionaire’s own company managers on stage were all stunned. They could all see the seeming glaring error or colour blindness implied, but everyone believed him to be a very intelligent and clever individual. No one said anything aloud for a few seconds. 

The Billionaire let it all sink in for a couple of seconds. He had a confident smile on his face, as he looked towards the audience. He leaned forward slightly as if to hear them better. Just as he started to hear a weak cry of protest in the back, ”But the colour seems...” he spoke out in a booming voice into the mike.

“Our life starts out in an egg. It develops into something you cannot imagine when looking at an egg. This egg represents a new concept, a new idea and it will grow into something you may not be able to imagine. This egg has everything that is needed for it to grow into something spectacular and big. Let me tell you what I see in the future of this egg.”

He now had the undivided attention of all. They were quiet, seemingly hypnotised and hanging on to his every word and expression.

“All you fresh graduates out there - welcome to the working, adult world!! I hope the brightest and best of you will join me and our new company as we incubate and develop our new company that I am announcing here today. It is – The Purple Egg!” he proclaimed, with an added, obvious emphasis on the word ‘Purple’ that let the audience know, he knew what was going through their minds. Many thought that he was clever than themselves and there would have to be a way that he was right and they were wrong. That set some doubting minds at rest. They were intrigued. They wanted to hear more. His company had received the largest number of applications among the aspiring job-seekers.

“I want to tell you a story about this egg and how it represents a great future for all of us. I want you to listen to me, hear me out and then decide for yourself if you want to join me on a path an incredible future for all of us. I see great opportunities, the potential for great wealth as part of a great way of living on this planet, which is a gift to us from a higher power. We have so far abused our gift and not treated it well. Look at the state we have brought this to.  We have created a hell of a mess on earth. This egg and what it will grow into, will help us show our gratitude to the ultimate authority that has let us live on this lovely earth of ours. We need to clean up our mess and create our heaven here on earth.”

Now, suddenly all the ‘greenies’ and environmentally conscious among the audience were hooked. Some looked a bit puzzled. One of his ‘Green credential’ HRR managers understood this and whispered excitedly to her colleagues. They were impressed. They were all taking notes furiously and passed slips of paper to each other.

“Did you know that tourists in many parts of Asia, litter the walking tracks up the mountains and the locals have hired a lot of labourers who sweep the paths and meadows clean with brooms made of reeds, grass or the spines of coconut leaves bunched together? They pick up the litter, and sweep the mess as best as they can, much like they do at their homes. They cannot afford vacuum cleaners or fancy machinery.

 One day, I was walking along up a recently swept mountain path in the Himalayas on my last spiritual retreat. I was contemplating the mess and clutter of life and how to make things better. You could say, I was seeking inspiration from a higher power. I stopped to rest and look around. I sat on a little rock next to a larger boulder on the side of the path.  There was a broom left wedged between the two, apparently by a worker who had been there a little while ago and gone on a break. I sat on the rock and looked onto the valley below. As I looked around, I saw an eagle like bird in the distance, above me and swooping toward me. It flew low down overhead and I saw something drop on to the big rock next to me. There was a shattering roar and sound and I felt the rock, on which I sat, shake. I got up and saw that the big rock next to me had split open and one piece had tipped over to its side while the other had tilted a bit. I moved closer to look and saw this egg lying in the crack between the two pieces of rock on some rubbish that had been caught in the gap. I was shocked. While I was still stunned, the big bird that had flown past came circling and landed on the split rock. It suddenly transformed into a big, majestic, beak-nosed, man clad in gold and purple robes with a regal bearing and a commanding voice.

“I know what you were thinking,” he said to me, “Clean up your act. Clean up your personal mess, help clean up the mess of this world.”

Even without him saying so, I realised this was the form of a higher power, the true King, the true lord of us all. I could tell this because he was wearing a royal purple and gold. He knew my innermost thoughts and feelings and spoke to the search of my heart at that moment.”

“What do I do?” I asked

“Pick up the broom, clean up the mess around the egg. Take the egg home. Keep it carefully. Let it remind you and humanity of your purpose in life from here on. To attain heaven, you need to clean out the mess in your world, for that you first need sweep out the dirt in your heart and in your soul. This broom is a symbol of the tool you need. Go on, help clean up the world. Get others to help you. Those who understand my message and have faith will follow you. It will be come your calling, your business and your contribution to the world.

He then waved his arms and transformed into an eagle and flew away.”

Now, a good portion of the audience was in shock - psychologically and morally in shock!  They were not used to professional company CEOs talking like this. This was unprecedented stuff. Many were confused and did not know what to make of this. Even his management team was looking flabbergasted. The TV cameras and media had a sensational story now. However, the Billionaire knew, he now had a lot of people with strong spiritual faith and inclination hooked. One HRR managers could understand this. He excitedly passed on a note to his colleagues “A lot of the faithful will be on board”. Some of the atheist greenies were still inclined to go along as long as the job of cleaning up the earth was a goal. Some emotionally upset ultra-rationalists left the camp at that moment. Some paused calmly to think about how it might be beneficial to them even if they did not intellectually agree with this wild story. Many saw the potential for a dedicated and committed market for whatever the product this thing led to. They felt good and wanted to get on board and join the company.

The Billionaire continued, seemingly oblivious to the consternation he had caused among the audience, in his usual confident, calm, reassuring businesslike tone.
“I picked up the broom and swept aside the litter around the egg. I bagged the rubbish to take it down with me to my hotel. I took out the egg and carefully pocketed it. It does not weigh any more than a normal egg. I know I witnessed a miracle with a message for me and humanity. I have since thought deeply about it. I have come up with a new product. It is an all-purpose broom that can be used on hard stone floors or carpeted ones. It is both a vacuum cleaner and broom. It is light, rechargeable and the handle can store the collected dirt and be emptied easily. Even remote villages in the Himalayas now have electricity reaching them. So it can be used even there to make the job of those labourers a bit easier. We can sell these in the hundreds of millions to bring down the cost to extremely affordable levels. In fact my vision is ‘A Purple Egg Broom In Every Room’. It will enable people to think of cleanliness in every room, every day with a couple of sweeps it becomes easier to maintain a clean house and remind them to clean out their hearts as well. It will help make the world a better place.” 

“I want to hire the best among you to help me design and make ‘The Universal Purple Egg Broom’ the first of its kind and help clean up the world. 
I hope to see many of you who have applied for a job with us, in interviews that will be commencing shortly. Wish you all the very best in life. Thank you!” 

He stepped back from the mike to thunderous applause, cheers, some wild whistling and calling too. The media had a feeding frenzy as they caught the expressions of the audience, the Billionaire, his management team and even representatives of other companies. It was obvious that this story had just begun and would be in the news for a while longer. The initial shock and disbelief at the incongruity of the brown egg being called the Purple Egg was lost in the discussion of the eccentricity of the Billionaire’s spiritual experience, miracle and the hard-nosed business case and market opportunity. No one really wanted to argue or second guess an already hugely successful billionaire. He was a legend in his own lifetime and few cared to point out the small obvious mistakes that probably were not really mistakes, but probably something very deep and subtle, in many people’s opinion. Only a small number thought that he was ‘wrong’.

The Billionaire went across to his management team and sat down among them as they finished applauding him. He then left for a personal break for a couple of hours.

Soon they all trooped out to a pre-interview meeting with him in a conference room. They sorted the applicants and their resumes online. In about an hour, the Billionaire joined them.

As they sat down for a discussion, the Billionaire looked around with a slight smile and asked his HRR Vice President, “Amy, So what do you think? What kind of response do you think we will have?”

Amy replied, “Honestly, I think we have lost some of the applicants. About 10% of the students with the top grades have withdrawn their applications in the past hour. Should we be concerned?”

The Billionaire smiled and replied, “I expected as much. It is what I wanted. These are mostly the super self-righteous, bookish types, who see things in black and white - themselves as right and others as wrong. Or they are just as self-assured about themselves and will not last long with us. They may strike out on their own. They may be technically smart, but cannot function well with people like us who see things differently and they know it. That is why they have withdrawn. There are others just as smart as them and better to work with. I would not worry about it as long as there are still more than a hundred of the top graders.”

“Yes, we still have the interest of about 90% that had applied, way more than we can hire,” said the HRR Vice President Amy.

“Good! Let us move on. What are your impressions on the kind of people you think we will attract for this?” asked the Billionaire.

“I guess we would have gotten a lot of Greenies that would normally not be with us. I think we would have added a number of the spiritually faithful people, but lost some,” said the VP smiling.

“Yes, as long as the business makes sense, they will feel better spiritually. Even those that do not subscribe to my specific religion are more comfortable with others just like them. They dislike ‘non-believers’ or ‘godless’ ones. However, some feel strongly negatively about any brand other than their own. We will lose them too and that is for the better. We will get the kind of people who can get along with each other for their self-interest even if they are of different political or religious persuasions. Okay, let us proceed with the interviews. I will sit in on a few first ones and then will have to leave,” said the Billionaire.

He went and sat with a small panel that was interviewing the candidates with the top academic scores. He set out the “Purple Egg” in the table in front of them, as the other panel members exchanged glances. No one said a word.

The first candidate was called in. She entered, greeted everyone politely but had a doubtful expression looking at the egg.

The Billionaire let the interview continue. It seemed to go very well. She seemed interested in working for the company and was technically very good and they could use a person like that. 

Suddenly, the Billionaire took a brief silence to address the candidate and ask her “What does this Purple Egg make you want to do? Does it motivate you to work for this company?”

“Sir, with all due respect, Can you not see this is a brown egg, not a purple one? Why do you call this a purple egg? Also, you say this egg caused a huge rock to split open, but that it weighs about a normal egg and needs to be kept carefully. How is this possible?”

“But I see this purple egg as one given by the Lord and cannot question that,” said the Billionaire with a deeply convinced tone.


The girls looked uncomfortable and tried hard to not show it. She soon left. 

“Put her on the strike out list,” said the Billionaire.

This went on for a while and the Billionaire asked every candidate that came in the same question. 

Some were smiling, comfortable and did not show any strong aversion to the brown egg being called ‘The Purple Egg’ while some were quite visibly uncomfortable. A few suggested calling it the ‘Brown Egg’. A couple suggested painting the egg purple. The Billionaire kept a very convincing appearance of genuinely believing the egg to be purple, but not getting into a detailed argument. A few dared to challenge him about the implausibility of the miracle of the egg shattering a big rock. The Billionaire was not perturbed. He calmly stuck to his version of events. He seemed to assume it as a given that he was right about it, and that the candidates were the ones who were perhaps mistaken.

After they left, he asked the committee to put every one of the candidates who had openly stated that the egg was brown and NOT purple, or questioned the miracles openly, to be put on the potential strike out list.

“After you are done with all the candidates, call me first thing tomorrow morning if you do not have enough to hire,” he said and left.

The committee was a bit puzzled, but did as told. Surprisingly, they did find enough candidates to hire.

When the final list of hires was finalized and all done, one day the HRR Vice President Amy could not contain herself. She asked the Billionaire politely as she they stood at the watercooler.

“Sir, why did you not want to hire those really smart, capable people, who were otherwise qualified and the only reason was they did not accept that the egg was purple?”

“Amy, could you not figure that out? Do you want me to spell it out for you,” asked the Billionaire with an intent and thoughtful expression looking at her.

“Yes, I am not sure about it. Could you tell me?” Amy replied,

“Well, for us to succeed as a company, while we need people who are smart, question and challenge us on how we go about our day to day operations, but we also need them to believe and have faith in certain crucial matters and core principles. These people did not have enough faith,” replied the Billionaire.

It was then that Amy truly understood him.



Copyright  (c) Kannan Narayanamurthy 2015
All rights reserved 

Wednesday, November 25, 2015

To Make This World A Better Place Become A Bit More Like Them



The crooked need to become a bit straightforward
The straightforward need to become a bit crooked

The weak need to become a bit stronger
The strong need to become a bit weaker

The innocent need to be become a bit more knowledgeable
The knowledgeable need to become a bit more innocent

The naive need to become a bit more clever
The clever need to become a bit more naive

The timid need to become a bit more bold
The bold need to become a bit more timid

To make this world a better place
We all need to become a bit more like our adversaries,
Not entirely like 'them', but a bit more like them.
It is like moving closer to 'them'
To make this world a better place!



Copyright  (c) Kannan Narayanamurthy 2015
All rights reserved 

Saturday, November 21, 2015

PNC Shambhu – Beautiful Beauticians


It is truly said that The Lord above has a sense of humour. He has blessed those that say the most politically incorrect things with the loudest and clearest voice, one that can be heard above others and the surrounding noise. Our PNC Shambhu was one such recipient of The Lord’s blessings. When he was a grown adult, he was slightly deaf, which added a couple of notches on the volume settings to his voice. He had a clear, deep, booming and loud resonant sound with a South Indian accent in which every sound and syllable was enunciated.

One day, the married PNC Shambhu was visiting a newly opened shop in a mall nearby with his wife. It was a beauty salon with a complete range of services from hair-cutting, colouring, nail-trimming, sauna, tanning, eyebrow plucking, detoxification of many things, to heavy-duty work such as face painting (they called it ‘Make Up’). The grand vision of its owners was advertised as – “Come in and when you walk out, you will not recognise yourself.”

 It was a bright, shiny store with mirrors everywhere at every angle, very plush décor and furnishing. There were fancy chairs that looked like the ones at the dentist’s or on a space station. When Shambhu and his wife entered, it was almost fully occupied with new customers being offered great promotional offers. There were many women in all sorts of seats, under various stages of processing, being catered to by about a dozen bustling and extremely well-groomed, neat, elegant, spectacularly good-looking all female staff, who looked like celebrity models and were each a walking advertisement for the new shop. 

There were a couple of staff members just to greet the entering customers, leading them to be seated in a lovely waiting area with a great view of the ‘arena’ where all the customers were being worked on. There was pleasant light music playing in the background and a hint of expensive perfume in the air. The waiting customers were offered a choice of drinks from coffee, tea to more esoteric choices of mineral water and herbal teas. A surprisingly low and subdued hum emanating from various machinery at work in the arena, could be heard in the seating area.

Immediately, Shambhu and his wife looked up at the elegant, electronic screen menu above the nearby cash register. As expected the prices for most services seemed to be mistaken by a shift in the decimal place, but they knew it was no mistake. Shambhu had always wanted to treat his wife to an experience in such a place and she was looking forward to it too, not that she needed it. Shambhu’s wife was woman with both an attractive appearance and personality, even without any additions or subtractions to her natural look.
The person who led them to be seated was introducing the salon’s services and explaining things to Shambhu’s wife, having noted that he seemed to be in a sort of daze, looking around with a confused expression. It was a normal sight in her experience. Shambhu’s wife was more calm and collected and listened carefully. She had a sudden urge to reconsider the list of services she had originally planned to avail of -the sticker shock had been too much. She was asked what she wanted done and she just recited what she had planned with some hesitation. She was mentally adding up the cost and half-way through, felt it was a bit much. She looked toward Shambhu for some kind of indication. What would he feel?  Or what would he say? She knew he was a generous soul and did not begrudge her anything he could afford. She felt that while they could not afford to be regulars here, they could afford occasional visits to this little slice of heaven. Shambhu was still looking around him at all the lights, gadgets, instruments, people and seemed to be lost. She nudged him to get his attention. He turned towards her and their greeting angel.

“So, what do you think?” Shambhu's wife asked timidly. She fervently hoped he had been listening to her shortened list of services and wanted to hear what he had to say. Would he encourage her to go on with the list or let it be truncated? She thought she knew him, but on another level, she wanted to test him.
The question seemed to surprise Shambhu as it appeared to have suddenly brought him back from his reverie. 

“Nice place! Very Nice!!” Shambhu answered with a beaming smile and looking all around, seemingly confirming his wife’s fear that he had not really been paying attention. Then he continued on in his booming, clear, loud voice that cut through all the background noise so that everyone in the store could hear him, even the ladies with space helmets with personal ear-phones in their space-craft cockpits, around the store.
“All the people working here are so good-looking, even better than the customers!”

There was a sudden quiet as all heads turned towards Shambhu. The emotions within those heads varied widely between the staff and the customers. Shambhu’s wife was mortified.

Blissfully unaware, Shambhu continued sincerely to his wife, “Hey, you should get that toe and sauna treatment done as well. I am sure you will enjoy it. Maybe I will go and get the grocery shopping done, go home, put them away and come back later to pick you up? What do you say?”
Shambhu’s wife and those in that store, who had looks that would have killed Shambhu if they could, suddenly had mixed feelings about him. 

“Ok, Dear! I will get all that done. You come back in a couple of hours,” said Shambhu’s wife quietly, smiling to herself. She caught a few knowing winks from the other customers. She sat down as Shambhu walked out waving to her. He did not notice all the eyes tracking him as he left the store.
“So, let’s go over all that you want done today. And how will you be paying?” asked the store lady.
“Well, he will be paying when he comes back,” said Shambhu’s wife.
“That’s right, sweetie! He should pay for all this, all his life,” quipped an elderly lady customer who was sitting nearby. She too had a loud voice that carried around the store.
Suddenly, laughter broke out, all around the store. Shambhu’s wife could not contain herself and she too laughed out loud. Even the professional looking store staff could not contain themselves. They all joined in.

“He is a good generous man,” said Shambhu’s wife to the old lady. 
“But he will pay!!” she added laughing.

In a couple of hours, Shambhu came back to the store. He did not notice the wicked smile with which the staff member at the cash register asked him, “Sir, are you here to pay?”
“Yes,” he answered sincerely. He paid the bill and left.

He did not notice the peal of laughter and giggles that rang out as he left the store. He did not notice his wife turn around to wave to a dozen new friends she had made in the store.



Copyright  (c) Kannan Narayanamurthy 2015
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Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Self Respect and Self Esteem - Get your children on to them


Some of the greatest human conflicts and tragedies can be traced to treating someone unfairly or with a lack of respect or courtesy. This is true at personal as well as national, cultural and racial levels. On the positive side of indicators, the greater the percentage of self-respecting individuals with self-esteem in a population, the more successful the society is in a genuine way. Simply having a lot of stuff, money or material wealth does NOT make a successful society.

 However, if you want to change the world, or if you want to change the situation in the world for the better, one has to start with oneself.

Sometimes we hear this said "Until you respect yourself, don't expect others to respect you." 
This is true to a some extent, since not everyone in this world treats others with respect, as a default starting point.

It is wise  and the right thing to do - to treat others with respect. It is another issue that some people earn a 'loss of respect' by their consistent actions.

Learn to respect yourself - expect and demand the respect you give to others, for yourself as well. 

Note: Demanding respect does not always have to be a loud verbal demand, but can be more subtle and quiet. 

One can decide to settle for no less than being treated with respect, whenever possible. It does not mean one can change others who are determined to disrespect you, but it can change your reaction and the way you deal. That is one way you express self-respect.

Another reason the world is so skewed in the distribution of individual achievements is strongly related to self-esteem. This is a quality that is very subtle, but important. It feeds on the success it achieves. Self-esteem does not necessarily  have to be conditional upon individual achievements or success, but appears to flourish based on those. A lot of self-esteem seems to depend upon others around us, building us up from within.

One just needs to have a belief that one is entitled to aspire for the best in the world and achieve the best in the world. One needs to put in effort to achieve one's goals and that itself should be the basis for self-esteem even if we miss our goals for reasons beyond our control. 

There are fake, pumped-up, imitations of 'self-esteem' that are really self-delusions of grandeur or superiority, with nothing to back it up. This is dished out a lot in the modern world with easy use of superlatives. Words such as 'Fantastic!!' 'Amazing!' 'Out of this world!' 'Mind-blowing!' 'You are the BEST!' being thrown around loosely with no real or solid achievement, supposedly to boost self-esteem. It only leads to an inflated balloon called ego!

I believe these are two important aspects that our children need to be nurtured in and taught - Self-respect and Self-esteem. It can change the face of society. It is by attacking the self-respect and self-esteem in people that they are, can be and have historically been kept down.


Copyright  (c) Kannan Narayanamurthy 2015
All rights reserved 

Sunday, November 15, 2015

PNC Shambhu - Early Years – Of Beards and Aunts


Since innocence is strongly linked to political incorrectness, it is but natural that children, who are likely to be more innocent than most adults, will bring up more moments of PNC. Our Shambhu was and remains innocent in many ways that other adults are not.

Even as a very young child, Shambhu was quite fond of hanging out with his father who usually maintained a neatly trimmed beard. Shambhu liked the feel of his chin and cheeks and often rubbed them with his tiny hands. His father had a deep voice and played with him a lot. So, it seemed but natural when his family met others socially, and as is common, most grown-ups came over to pick up the little babies or toddlers, hold them and give them a cuddle. It is always interesting to watch the reaction of little children when being picked up by people they are not familiar with. It is such a powerful instinct that it is, even today, used to try and figure out political candidates for the job of Presidents of powerful nations during political campaigns! The little ones can instinctively tell the good from the evil candidate. Those wily politicians can fool us adults but not little babies.

Well, each child is different and will react differently to different faces, or be comfortable and happy or unhappy with different faces. They will observe an approaching face intently and their expression will usually give away their feelings. Little Shambhu went over more readily to men he met, especially if they had a beard. He was happy and comfortable with very few women, mostly his mother and a few close relatives that had spent time with him early on. People often commented when he would squirm and wriggle away and was almost dropped many times by many ladies who picked him up as a child.

“He is more friendly and comfortable with men, Daddy-like men with beards!” they used to say. Shambhu grew up hearing this for so long that he came to believe that it was true. Children often do this, once they start to understand adults, language and reasoning, they will often believe anything that sounds like a ‘reason’. Strangely enough, this works sometimes even in adulthood.

Shambhu mostly drifted towards men and beards as a child. However, there was one aunt of his that he met and took to her quite easily on the first meeting. He seemed quite happy in her arms and no fuss. He got along excellently with her. She showered love on him and it was evident he liked her. When other women tried to pick him and play, he shied away quickly. Everyone seemed a bit puzzled.

One day, at a family get-together he was sitting on this aunt’s lap in the middle of a gathering of adults. One lady, who had tried to engage with Shambhu but failed, could not contain her curiosity and jokingly asked him, “Why Shambhu? You normally only play with men with beards, how come you go to that aunt of yours but do not come to me?”

Shambhu was put in a spot. He looked at the lady questioning him. He then looked up from the lap he was sitting on at his favourite aunt.

“This aunt also has a beard,” he said pointing to and rubbing her chin. That lady happened to have a few hairs on her chin as was natural and common among women her age!

Well, I really don’t need to tell you the mark that moment left in the family vault of memories. I must however tell you that the gracious aunt is still his favourite one and she still showers him with love.



Copyright  (c) Kannan Narayanamurthy 2015
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Wednesday, November 11, 2015

The Inscrutable Chinese



Note: This article is based on some stereotypes of Western and Eastern people that are generalizations. I believe individuals should be judged for what they are. But these generalisations however have some statistical validity and are very useful for learning.

I guess most Westerners who are exposed to debating, dealing or negotiating with Chinese or Asians have heard this expression 'Inscrutable Chinese Face'. I have rarely seen this used with reference to Italians or Mexicans or Arabs or Indians. This expression is often used as a sort of complaint. It seems to arise from disappointment due to an inability to read the true feelings of someone of Chinese or Asian origin in a situation. It is where the Westerner feels they would normally have been able to judge the true feelings, if the person they were trying to read were of a different, perhaps more expressive ethnicity or someone of their own. It is usually a negative connotation to encountering an 'inscrutable' face for the Westerner. It is as if the Oriental person failed to provide something that was due or rightfully expected of them.

This is an interesting issue since it reflects and reveals a deep truth about the way Western and Eastern people 'read' others. Westerners are very visually tuned to the expressions, tones and other 'cues'. They seek 'eye-contact', standard phrases and expressions to both reveal and to reveal concealment of true feelings. Their further steps in a debate or dealing are dictated by the reaction or response they get. They are usually adept at changing their next moves based on the reaction they get from the other person. In negotiations or deals, there is a strong motive to judge and see 'how much one can get away with' without saying so explicitly. It is expected that the other party does the same  and it is a game played according to the 'fair game' rules - where the outcome need not be fair as long as each got a 'fair' chance to play by the same rules.

Now, this kind of thing falls apart when dealing with someone that one is not the same as us, not familiar to us, a race or ethnicity that one has not encountered before. One had difficulty reading someone's face, expressions and feelings. It is like we are little infants once again, just come into this world and are trying to figure out what others mean and what they are feeling or thinking. An infant knows just the basic expressions it can trust or distrust - a smile or a frown, a loving tone or a harsh one. As adults we are conditioned to distrust these as well in serious debate or 'negotiations'. The Western adult now feels like a helpless child just starting to work out the world. 

The Eastern mindset and negotiation styles are different culturally. One did not make eye contact since those are often dictated by social power. One often used tones and subtle expressions to convey deference or confidence or to deliberately conceal those, much the same as Western culture does, where needed. The guiding principle was to try and put forth one's reasoning, particularly if it was strong and could logically stand on its own, taking out the personalities and other 'distractions', even while giving all the signals of social deference to authority or power through body language and other gestures. Even the socially weak can put forward a strong case through reason and hope to get it across. The idea is not to try and get away with something, but let reason, fairness or equitableness win, as a first attempt. However, if that failed, then the 'other game' begins, much the same as in Western dealings, but, as much as possible, the personal feelings and issues are kept aside. This is because, everyone is aware that people can put on a show of expressions, feelings and drama and get away with things. Without the personal drama, it is possible to arrive at a more 'principle based' , fair or equitable outcome.

If the first attempt at reasoning fails, the power equation is put forward as the next step to try and convince the other to themselves come round to our point of view so that it can appear that we all came to an agreement on our own. When that too fails, it is usually a face saving, gracious tactic of walking away to come back later, still without still involving people personally, emotionally. Both parties may go back to their own camps. Note that both Western and Eastern people can be quite expressive and very much scrutable when among their own ethnicity or fellow cultural compatriots.

In negotiations or personal dealings, Easterners tend to ignore or put aside personal expressions or tones. They do better with written down principles, offers or dealings that do not require personal showmanship or acting. However, they have had to learn and use some of these since they have been dealing with others around the world. It is just that they are not as good at it as Westerners.

Now, coming to the 'inscrutability' of the Chinese or Asians, there is something many Westerners fail to realise. They often say 'I am not even sure if he/she understood what I was saying or what I meant." It is very frustrating for them since the Asian person, who perhaps until a few moments ago was 'readable' suddenly has assumed a quiet, expressionless expression that reveals no feelings one way or the other. They probably say "I will get back to you afterwards."

Here is a thought to Westerners. The Chinese or Asian can usually understand the terms of an offer or deal logically just as well as a Westerner. They are just as human, just as intelligent and will have the same feelings about it being fair or unfair or whatever. Very likely, they understood your position quite well. They probably feel they do not owe it to you to provide you with signals of acknowledgment that you will understand from your cultural conditioning. It is just that they try to save their and the Westerner's face by not reacting openly to it, right then and there, because it seems like unpleasant drama. 

My suggestion to anyone coming across an 'inscrutable face' is as follows.

First, scrutinize yourself, your own position, offer or attitude towards making fair deal, debate rather than try to pry open the other's expressions to try and read or gain an unfair advantage. Be assured, even if you offered them a great deal, they may take a while to figure it out. Once they do, the next time they meet you, you will see them not being so inscrutable, but clearly showing their feelings. They will usually try to outdo you and return the favour. 

Btw, I find Westerners can be inscrutable too. It took me a long time of living in the Western culture to pick up on their being consciously inscrutable.

What do you think?



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Monday, November 9, 2015

PNC Shambhu - Early Years - Pockets



It is common in the Indian culture to observe a child closely and comment on its 'nature' from a very early age. The elders in the family and neighbourhood will often predict a certain future personality and a kind of future for the child when he/she is grown up. PNC Shambhu certainly gave some early indications to his parents and grandparents that they were blessed with a special child. But then, his family and friends did not quite 'get' him in the early years. They mistook his expressions and his parents feelings as the norm, where every parent feels their child is a special one, different from all others but still a normal child that everyone wants. He did give them a few good memories to remember. One of these early ones was actually a false alarm that everyone remembered because when they were experiencing the event, they all thought they were watching something off-the-charts, until it ended differently and tamely.

            Shambhu started to speak clearly when he was about a year and six months old. It was a slightly late start. However, it was also perhaps because he was quiet and seemed to be lost in thought or observing something that no one could figure out. When he started to speak, he would often say things that no one else had noticed and he would seem to miss out what everyone else had noticed.

            One day, when he was about two and a half years old, Shambhu was dressed up smartly in new clothes for the yearly Festival of Lights and was taken to a large gathering of family and friends. Everyone else at the function too had come dressed in all their finery and brought their families. There were a few great-grandparents, many grandparents, very many parents and a large batch of kids of all ages, even some very tiny infants.  Most were related to each other and all the exact relationships of aunts, uncles, cousins, grand aunts, grand uncles and the family tree was being explained to the children as the adults introduced them after greetings. The little ones were all greeted with special love, some with their cheeks kissed, prodded, pinched, hugged, carried, tickled, heads ruffled and generally made to feel that closeness of family.

Shambhu's family was related to the host family. They had a daughter about his age called Priya. He was told about her before he went over. He had proudly and possessively carried a present for her. The little girl was asleep when Shambhu arrived, so he went over to play with a dozen other kids, running around, screaming, squealing and wandering in and out of the many rooms in the big, grand house. There was a room which was closed where the little girl was sleeping and another one in which apparently many mothers were there with their infants. There were people everywhere he looked around. There was cooking going on, music playing, radio playing in one room, a television in another. Groups of grown-ups were chatting, playing cards.  There were drinks and snacks being served everywhere. People were bustling hither and thither. The central hall, from which all the other rooms radiated away, had all the important guests and the elders of the family all seated. Some younger folk were standing around, many sat on the floor. The host family bustled about greeting everyone, chatting, offering snacks and guiding the helpers.

            Shambhu's parents were seated there too and his mother held on to the present that he was to give the little girl of the host family. Everyone was waiting for her to wake up and join the group. They had a nanny to help them with the children. Dinner would be served after the little girl woke up and was dressed up and ready to join the gathering. Until then, all the children atleast seemed free to meet up with others in the same range of age or size as themselves, roam around the house, play and while they were being shushed once in a while, they created regular bursts of high-frequency and high-volume sounds. Occasionally the sound of a group of men guffawing would rise up above the background crowd noise. It was a wonder how people were actually listening to songs on the radio or programs on the television at the same time.

            Suddenly, there was flurry of calls to the running little kids from their parents, a call to home base in the big central hall. If a child was not within earshot, somehow word was conveyed to it. Older siblings were dispatched to go and fetch the still missing ones. The host family’s little girl had woken up and had been dressed up and prepared to come down. After introductions, dinner was to be served, beginning with the kids in the first batch.

            Shambhu ran back to his mother and she gave him the colourfully wrapped present to give away to the little girl. She soon appeared - a tiny beautiful little doll like figure, about two years of age, herself wrapped in a lovely, colourful, mini traditional dress of silk and gold embroidery.  She had beautifully combed hair and some sparkling jewellery too. She was carried down to the centre of the hall by the nanny. Everyone’s eyes turned to her as she looked around with a mildly unsure expression at the huge gathering and all the unfamiliar faces. She may have felt she was still dreaming and she jumped on to arms of her mother and buried her face in her neck and tightly hugged her.

            ‘Aaawws, oohs, aaaahs’ and exclamations escaped many lips.
There were demands voiced –

“Let us see the beautiful face properly!”
“Come on, look at us, Priya darling! We’ve all been waiting to see you!”

            All other little children too watched curiously, at the new centre of attention, as she slowly and curiously turned her head sideways to sneak a peek at the crowd. She was shy but apparently enjoying all the attention.

“Priya! Everyone wants to greet you. Say ‘Namaskaaram’ to great aunt! Say hello to all your friends!” coaxed the mother, gently trying to turn her around to face the gathering.

            Priya clung tight to her mother’s arms but turned her face to catch a second glimpse at the crowd. Instinctively, her eyes searched for those closer to her size and she found a few looking at her in open admiration and awe.


                “Hey! Look at that Bindhi  on her forehead! So cute!” exclaimed a lady.
                “Priya, Look at what Shambhu has got for you.  He has a present to give you. Go on, Shambhu, give it to her,” this was Shambhu’s mother.
                All eyes turned towards Shambhu as he stood there, frozen, gawking at Priya. Until now, Shambhu had felt good about the present, holding it in his hands and feeling that it was ‘his’ present, even if it was to be given away. Like many children at that age, Shambhu did not think ahead of how it would feel to let go of it. The feelings would hit him only just as he was about to part with the colourful, solid package. He had both wanted to be the one to give away the gift, but also had mixed feelings about letting it go. He felt the pressure of all the eyes on him and the expectation that he had to give away something he liked. He started to look a bit unsure.
                Shambhu’s parents, being good parents, were in tune with his nature and feelings. They were the first to spot the potential for something unexpected.
                “Shambhu, this is the Priya that YOU wanted to give the gift to. Go on son, give it to her,” encouraged Shambhu’s father as Priya’s mother set her down on the floor in front of her and held her by the shoulders, facing away from her.
                Shambhu tightened the grip on the present and held it hugged, close to his body. It was his last attempt at taking a stand.
                Shambu looked at his mother. She too had that expression where she seemed to desperately want him to do as he was being asked. He sometimes could not figure out grown-ups, they were so nice to him and gave him things he liked, but sometimes they wanted him to give them away and were very insistent. His fears were confirmed when his mother also joined in the demands with her deceptively sweet  and cajoling tone, something that often changed quickly to a much less friendly one if not obeyed.
                “Shambhu, darling. That is the present you were to give to Priya. Go on and give to her now, sweetie,” said his mother.
                When he heard the words ‘darling’ and ‘sweetie’ in the same sentence, Shambhu knew that the game was up.  He decided to give in and hoped that compliance would bring the rewards that he had experienced in the past. He stepped forward, looked Priya in the eyes and gave her the present.
“Here, take it. It is for you,” said Shambhu quietly. The little girl’s face lit up. She quickly took it. There was evident pleasure in her eyes at receiving this bright, colourful package.
                There was a big cheer from all for Shambhu and a hug from his mother. His father too was relieved.
                “Priya! What do you say now, darling?” said her mother loudly as she restrained the little girl from opening the present right away.  The little girl looked confused.
“Say Thank you,” whispered the mother in Priya’s ear. Suddenly all the eyes and expectations were on Priya to do the ‘right thing’! The poor girl was so eager to see what the present was, but had to restrain herself.  She found her mother kneeling next to her and prompting her, while having her hand on the present. The little girl too had found grown-ups had these strange ways. She decided to cooperate quickly and get to opening up the package.
                “Thank you Shambhu,” she said softly.  That was also met by a cheer all around.
                Priya went about carefully removing the wrapping and revealed the contents. It was a set of pretty shiny silver anklets that tinkled and jingled as one walked wearing them. A lot of exclamations erupted.
                “Priya is a girl. She is a girl!” said  Shambhu loudly. There was a bit of silence in the room.
No, no Folks! It was NOT a sexist statement of gender discrimination by an Indian male, as stereotyped in Western media! It was not even a statement against a gender. It was one statement in a chain of reasoning of a little innocent child, who was trying to cope with some loss. You will see his complete reasoning as we proceed with the story.
                “Yes, she is a girl, Shambhu!” said his father, puzzled but not worried as yet. “Kids say the strangest things” came to his mind.
                “Isn’t she a pretty girl?” someone chimed in.
                “Priya is a girl. I am a boy,” said Shambhu again. That got some attention around, from the grandparents and great-grand parents, but particularly from the parents of the kids.
“Boy meets girl!” someone wisecracked.
“They start early these days” said someone else. There was a guffaw from the men and peals of laughter from the women.
                This was not what Shambhu wanted. He was not finished with making his point.
“I have something I will not give Priya because I am boy and Priya is girl,” said Shambhu loudly.
                Now, that really got the attention of almost everyone in the room, even that of the little kids, who probably were on a closer wavelength to Shambhu’s thinking. They really wanted to know what it was that was special, that he had and that he did not want to give to Priya. The grown-ups and others with less innocent minds were worried about the other part of Shambhu’s statement, the one about the ‘boy versus girl’ part, something which all the kids knew was not the real issue here.
                Shambhu was not sure what the anklets were really for.  They did not look like something he could use, but he felt the pangs of parting with something that was attractive, shiny and that apparently a lot of the people admired. He knew the anklets were no longer in his possession and were gone. He also resented all the attention the little girl and the gifts were getting after his heroic deed of giving them up. He could not keep it within himself any longer. He had to let it all out. He wanted to express that he still had something that he did not have to give away and feel good about himself.
                There was an awkward silence, a bit uncomfortable. While no one really expected that a two and a half year old boy was so precocious and knowledgeable in worldly ways, the grown-ups were  more anxious about what might come out next. Already Shambhu’s parents and Priya’s parents were thinking of strategies to pre-empt a disaster and steer the topic to safer waters. They dared not ask Shambhu exactly what it was that he had as a boy that he did not want to give Priya. They prayed to God that no one else would be foolish enough to ask Shambhu that very question that was on all their minds. Some of the oldest members in the room were shaking their heads as if unsure of what they heard or at the times they were living in. Some smiled uncomfortably, while some smiled mischievously.

“Hey, let’s see what we have for dinner…,” started Shambhu’s mother when she was cut off by a more clear voice.
“Shambhu, what do you have that you will not give Priya?” asked a five year old girl.

Now there was no escape. The very question that the grown-ups most feared was put forward, clear and out there for all to hear and for Shambhu to answer. He did so, very confidently.
“Pockets. I have pockets in my pants. Priya is a girl. She wears skirts. I will not give my pants to Priya,” explained Shambhu, feeling good about having something he did not have to give away.
The tension in the room eased and I am sure a couple of lives were saved by the heart-attacks prevented. There were bursts of laughter and cheer. Many comments rang out.

“Attaboy Shambhu! You keep your pants on!”
“Yes, my Boy! Don’t give that girl your pockets!”
That moment certainly was burned in the memories of many and it was recalled many times in many places over many years.

Dinner was served.



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Sunday, November 8, 2015

Introducing PNC Shambhu

Pattikonda Nageswarrao Chandrasekhara Shambhu was his full name. It required an extra line in his passport. It was similar to other names from where he hailed. At his school, university and work, he was called PNC Shambhu. 

Amongst his friends and in social circles, he earned the honorific and he came to be known as Politically-Not-Correct Shambhu. When he went abroad to work, he came to be known affectionately as 'Politically-Not-Correct Shambles' or just as 'Shambles'. It was quite apt as it turned out. You see, Shambhu was his given name. It means 'source of joy'. It is one of the names of Lord Shiva, the Destroyer - one among the Divine Trinity of Hindu mythology. 

It must have been some kind of divine warning for the world at large for Shambhu was both a source of joy and a destroyer. He was of a happy disposition and merrily destroyed a lot of egos, myths and widely held beliefs in those around him, while being mostly unaware of it like a bull in a China shop. There was a childish innocence in him, also a trademark of the deity he was named after. It often seemed that only divine intervention had saved him and those around him from imminent catastrophe and somehow propelled them all into a new, better order while destroying the old one - which is what Lord Shiva represents.

Come, let me take you on a journey, slowly following the trail of 'Shambles', at a leisurely pace in future posts.



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Rose Bushes Saga

Rose Bushes Saga

It was spring then
A long time ago
There was the beloved
You were there
There was no rose bush
I was poor, I had no house
There was no rose
I could not afford to buy you flowers
One stray rose from next-door dared peep over the fence
I stole one from the neighbour's bush
No flower was safe from my seeking eyes
I would seek other flowers to give you


It is spring now
This season reminds me of past love
There are many rose bushes
I am not poor now, I have a house
There are many roses of many colours
I can afford to buy you all the roses you want
They wither on the vine
But you are not there anymore
Even the neighbour's flowers taunt me, leaning over the fence
I have no heart to pick the flowers now



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